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Putting mistakes behind you? Huh?

I really think we have a lot of cute little catch phrases in this world that people have used and abused so much that the become a part of our society and misconstrued and then completely misunderstood.

The biggest example in my mind right now is "You gotta just put your mistakes behind you!"


This is freaking horrible advice. Take it from a guy who has made WAY more than his share of ridiculous mistakes. The very last thing you wanna do with your mistakes is put them outta sight and behind you.

In my opinion you should write them down and put them on post-it notes and stick them on every surface you look at on a regular basis. Ponder them, go over them again, never ever forget them.

This absolutely does not mean let them become a obstacle. It doesn't mean become consumed with them in a way that prohibits progress or trying again. It doesn't mean let your past slow down your future.

It just means you should absolutely refuse to commit the same action that is a proven mistake twice.

If you have had financial problems in the past and got yourself back right. Don't forget the cause of your problems when the credit card offers start showing up again.

If you know that something you do causes disputes with your spouse, don't forget that, remember it and learn from it and quit doing it.

If you recognize that a certain action at work went wrong and wasn't a good choice. Don't forget and do it again in the future.

If you tried one method of parenting and it backfired, don't do it again, become a better parent.

I know it's just a catchphrase, a corny little quote, but just think how much our politicians must believe the phrase "You gotta just put your mistakes behind you!"

It's bad advice.

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